Mind your manners: The basics of modern opera etiquette

The opera has always been a place of high drama – both on and off the stage. While modern audiences may associate the opera with hushed theaters and strict codes of conduct, in the 18th and 19th centuries, opera houses were vibrant social hubs where spectators gossiped, conducted business and even, on occasion, gambled. On a trip to the continent in September 1840, English novelist Mary Shelley described La Scala opera house as the “universal drawing-room for all the society of Milan” where all sorts of trading transactions occurred, such that she could only catch “snatches of melody.” If Ms. Shelley were to visit our modern times, she might be pleased to discover the new codes of conduct. “Opera etiquette has evolved significantly over the years to reflect modern cultural norms,” said etiquette expert Myka Meier, founder and director ofBeaumont Etiquettein New York. “In the past, attending the opera was considered a highly formal event, with strict rules around dress, punctuality and behavior,” Ms. Meier said. “Today, while the tradition and elegance of opera remain (to show respect to the theater, performers and other attendees), there’s definitely a more relaxed and inclusive atmosphere. “For instance, some opera houses have embraced more casual dress codes. That said, the core principles of respect — like arriving on time, remaining quiet during the performance, not eating loudly or bringing outside food or beverage, and showing appreciation through applause — are timeless.”

Dress to impress

While black-tie and white-tie dress codes were once the norm, introducing a slew of accessories from opera gloves to opera glasses into the fashion world, today’s opera attire allows for greater variety. “The opera’s dress code has become more flexible over time, varying by venue and performance type,” Ms. Meier said. “For grand opera houses and opening nights, formal or semi-formal attire is often still encouraged as part of the tradition, and many attendees enjoy dressing up to match the occasion's elegance. “However, smart casual attire is often acceptable for daytime performances (pre-6p.m.) or smaller venues,” Ms. Meier said. “Ultimately, the dress code is about showing respect for the performers, but opera-goers should feel comfortable while still making an effort to look polished.”

Silence is sacred

The opera house has transformed from a place of intrigue and political machinations to an immersive artistic experience. As such, audience members are encouraged to arrive on time, as latecomers are typically held in the lobby until an appropriate break in the performance. To avoid last-minute scrambling, plan to arrive 20-30 minutes early, allowing time to park your vehicle, find your seat, browse the program and soak in the ambiance. During the performance, it is imperative to silence smartphones and abstain from whispering or fidgeting. “Unwrapping candy, or talking—even whispering—can distract others,” Ms. Meier said. “Silence your phone completely, and never open it to ever take photos or videos as even opening your phone to check the time will make the screen glare distracting for others." Should audience members feel inclined to discuss the performance or chat with their friends, the show’s intermission enables guests to stretch their legs, grab a drink and socialize. Intermission is also the ideal time to check one’s phone or take a photo of the opera house’s interiors. However, it is important to mind the clock for a timely return to one’s seat before the performance begins again. “Finally, refraining from inappropriate applause is important," Ms. Meier said. "While it’s tempting to clap after a moving scene, wait until the conductor or performers signal it’s the right moment, typically at the end of an act or the performance.” From its lively beginnings to the polished rituals of today, opera reflects the evolving tastes and values of its audiences. By embracing modern etiquette, opera aficionados honor not only the performers, but also the centuries-old art form. For more on visiting the opera, particularly the historic opera houses of Europe, read "Will travel for tenor" in the latest issue ofLuxury Portfoliomagazine.